Something weird happens to people around this time of year where they suddenly get an overwhelming urge to ask you what your goals are.
But the trouble is, for a lot of us, we don’t really know! But there’s so much pressure to know. You MUST know! So we come up with a generic set of goals;
“I’m going to cut out chocolate and be kinder to people”.
Cut to January 1st; you’ve insulted the incompetent barista at your local Starbucks that always gets your name wrong, before storming home and attempting to nullify your hangover by pushing a whole Toblerone into your face. FAIL!
But why? Why do we lose interest and give up on our goals so quickly?
One way we can develop a strong enough interest in our goals to actually persevere with them is by knowing what it is that we really want to do. What our passions are, our interests are, WHO we are! This is the foundation from which true goals can be set.
Because we don’t really care enough about those goals. They’re not big enough or important enough to motivate us through the discomfort we experience in pursuit of them.
And a good way to start figuring that out is by asking ourselves the following 3 questions:
– If you won the lottery, how would you spend your time?
– If you could wake up tomorrow and be anything, what would it be?
– What makes you jealous when you see other people doing it? And why?
I just want to leave you with that. We can get into how to turn your answers into actual goals, 5 year plans, how to break them down into manageable chunks etc another time, but for the next week, just think about those questions, and start jotting down some answers. Once you get past the obvious ones like “travel the world” and “be superman”, they might surprise you!
The definition of a resolution is: a firm decision to do or not to do something.
Decide that 2019 is going to be the year that you take control of your life, and live up to your potential, once and for all.
Happy New Year!